Healthy Mom Life

Category: Stay-at-Home Moms

  • Why So Many Moms Feel Like They’ve Lost Themselves (And How to Reconnect)

    Why So Many Moms Feel Like They’ve Lost Themselves (And How to Reconnect)

    As of today, I’m 37 weeks and 3 days pregnant. It’s insane to me how pregnancy is full of dichotomies. One day it feels like it’s flashing by and the next it feels like it’s dragging and I can’t wait to meet my baby. It’s full of excitement and happiness, but also full of anxiety and fear of things to come.

    Right now, I’m feeling in this weird rut. I’m looking forward to finishing work next week, but I’m also a bit sad to say bye to my current routine. Moving has also become harder, and I need to monitor my activities levels this pregnancy so that I don’t crash by 6:30 pm when my kids still need me to help get them ready for bed.

    Overall, I feel like my life is on pause until my baby makes their arrival. I’m not able to make any concrete plans for the summer because I’m not sure how my recovery will be, and I’m not able to set my usual fitness goals for myself because of how pregnant I am.

    I’m in this weird stage, that I think a lot of pregnant women get to, where you’re starting to get ready for the next chapter (post-partum). It’s been so long since I’ve felt like myself that I’m starting to miss the person I was before I became pregnant, and I’m getting excited to get back to her again.

    Why many moms feel this way

    The number one thing I didn’t really fully understand before having my kids was how dependent they would be on you for every little thing. If you’re going from taking care of only yourself (or a dog/cat), it can be a lot to get used to.

    Motherhood is a very selfless job. You put the needs of your children first, not just because you have to, but often because you want to. You end up loving these crazy little monkeys with your whole being and you want everything for them.

    However, what some women find is that in this caregiver role, you might start to “miss yourself”. You start to miss the sense of identity, independence, and freedom you once had. Not because you regret becoming a mother, but because those parts of you matter too.

    Especially with babies and toddlers, much of the day revolves around meeting someone else’s needs. Feeding, appointments, naps, childcare logistics, household management. It can feel like there is very little space left for your own interests.

    Many mothers don’t necessarily miss being child-free. They miss having parts of themselves that existed alongside motherhood.

    Why it’s normal

    Having children changes your life faster than your identity can adapt.

    Pregnancy, birth, and caring for babies can transform daily life almost overnight. Your routines, priorities, relationships, body, sleep, work, and free time may all change at once.

    Meanwhile, your sense of self doesn’t update instantly. You may still internally feel like the person who had hobbies, goals, spontaneous weekends, or a certain career trajectory, even if your days now look completely different.

    Pregnancy and postpartum also changes how your body, looks, feels, and functions. Even knowing and accepting these changes can still create a sense of loss or discomfort. Your body might not feel like it belongs to you especially if you’re breastfeeding.

    During pregnancy, people constantly check on you. They ask how you’re sleeping, how you’re feeling, and whether you need anything. Then the baby arrives and suddenly the spotlight shifts. It’s natural and understandable, but it can leave some women feeling like they’ve disappeared into the background of their own story.

    Small ways to reconnect with yourself

    Here are a few small things you can do right now to “find yourself again”:

    1. Stop waiting to become your old self again

    The old version of you isn’t gone, but she has changed. Motherhood adds layers to who you are. Instead of trying to become your pre-kid self again, my advice is to focus on getting to know the person you’ve become. You’re part of the mom club now, and you’re doing badass things.

    2. Reconnect with interests, not just responsibilities

    I’ve written a blog post about moms getting a hobby (linked here!) and I strongly stand by it. Moms need hobbies, and kids need to see their mom with interests and a life outside of their family.

    3. Create something that belongs only to you

    I started this blog as an outlet for myself and it’s slowing growing into something that I’m very proud of. Find your own outlet; this could be a garden, a fitness goal like a marathon, painting, or reading. Try a bunch of things that you’re interested in and remember that you’re a person with thoughts and ambitions of your own.

    4. Don’t actually put your life on hold

    I need to listen to this right now. While I feel like I’m on hold because I’m pregnant, I’m really not. I can still play with my kids, I can still set fitness goals, and I can still have fun. Things might look slightly different, but that’s all part of this big, beautiful life!

    I keep trying to catch myself from saying things like “oh, when the baby is a year old, I’ll do x….” or something similar. Because the reality of the situation is, there is no magical date or timeline. You either do it or you regret not doing it later. Take the course, go on that vacation, see your friends.

    5. Take care of the body you’re in now

    Please, please, buy clothes that fit and get rid of the ones that don’t or make you feel gross. I feel a million times better in something that’s comfortable and cute, rather than something I wore when my body was smaller. Rock the larger size or the high-waisted jeans. You look like a million bucks.

    Also, and I stand by this 100%: wear the bikini. Who cares what anyone else thinks. All bodies are beautiful and you deserve to not get weird tan lines because you’re afraid of what some joe-smoe might be thinking. Spoiler alert: they’re probably not even thinking of you. Being a mom sometimes comes with scars, stretch marks, and loose skin. These things are truly beautiful and a testament to the amazing things your body can do.

    Also, invest and prioritize fitness and mobility. There is always space for you at any gym and getting stronger is sexy.

    6. Let yourself be more than one thing

    Motherhood is most likely the most important role in your life, but it doesn’t have to be the only one. You can be a devoted, caring mother, and also a badass, ambitious, interesting person. Don’t box yourself in.

    What I’ve learned in this season

    There is a reason “mom glow-up” Instagram reels and tik-toks are so popular. Moms are looking for ways to get their spark back and reconnect with themselves in the new season of life that they’re in.

    Primarily, what I’ve found to be the most helpful mind-set change for me is to acknowledge that I’ve changed, and that I’ve changed for the better. I’m less concerned about what people think of me, and I will voice my opinions especially when it comes to my kids. I’ve learned to prioritize the things that truly matter in my life, since I don’t have time for things that drain me. I’ve also come to appreciate the little things my children do for me or the funny things they say. Hanging out with them right now is really fun for me.

    Don’t get me wrong, I do crave some adult company and would love to just chill on a patio with no responsibilities for a little bit. But I truly love my kids and I’m soaking up this crazy bananas season of life I’m in.

    Being pregnant with my third baby has shifted my perspective even further. I know I felt like I was losing myself in my last pregnancy and I ended up loving myself even more a year postpartum. I have the wisdom right now to know that it will be a slow process to get back to that feeling, but I have the experience to know that it will come. Kids are so small for such a short period of time, and trust me, it does get better.

    There is so much to look forward to with your littles and there will come a day where you realize that you don’t feel overwhelmed, overstimulated, or resentful. You’re just happy. You’re happy that you created the life you did and you’re proud of yourself for all those long nights and cuddles you gave your kids. Because they’re the best kids ever, and it’s all thanks to you. Motherhood changes you, but it doesn’t erase you: you were just growing into someone new.

    Related posts: [Hey Mom, get a Hobby!] | [Mid-Week Pick-Me Ups for Busy Moms] | [Ways I Stopped the Negative Self-Talk Spiral and What to Model for my Kids]

  • How I’m Preparing for My Third C-Section: What’s Different This Time (And What I’m Not Stressing About)

    How I’m Preparing for My Third C-Section: What’s Different This Time (And What I’m Not Stressing About)

    A quick note: I wrote this a while ago and have just now gotten around to posting!

    With the countdown now less than 60 days until my third c-section, everything is starting to feel very real. I’ve finally typed the date into our shared family calendar. I’ve started mentally mapping out childcare logistics and oh boy, I’m getting nervous. It’s finally hitting me that we’re going to be back in the newborn stage soon.

    Even though this will be my third c-section and my second scheduled one, it’s still a pretty big deal. Major abdominal surgery is major abdominal surgery, no matter how many times you’ve done it. And knowing what will come is both a blessing and a burden. On one hand, I feel like something of an expert on the recovery and returning to regular activity. On the other hand, I know exactly what’s ahead.

    I do want to quickly say to any mom who might be having mixed feelings about a scheduled or repeat c-section: everything you’re feeling is completely valid. You can feel sadness and gratitude at the same time. You can feel like your body failed you or that you did not give birth “in the right way”. Overtime, I’ve come to love my c-section scars that gave me my babies. But it’s been a journey and I’m still processing my own experience. Give yourself permission to feel all of it.

    Also: my birth is not your birth. Please don’t let someone else’s story (especially the dramatic 12-stitches tear birth story) cloud your experience before it’s even happened. Sometimes the most dramatic stories can be the loudest ones.

    I come from a very strong science background (Master’s of Science degree and years in clinical research), and I’ve had two previous c-sections. Here’s exactly what I’m doing – physically, practically, and mentally – to give myself the best shot at a smooth surgery, a straightforward recovery, and a relatively sane transition from two kids to three.

    Part One: Getting My Body Ready

    Why physical prep matters more for a repeat c-section

    Physical fitness going into any surgery matters — but for a repeat c-section specifically, each subsequent surgery involves cutting through scar tissue from previous ones, which can make the procedure longer and recovery more complex. Going in as strong as possible gives your body the best foundation to heal from. This is the basis for everything I’ve been doing in my third trimester: training for surgery and recovery, not performance.

    I want to acknowledge that being pregnant and trying to stay strong is genuinely hard. I love pushing myself in the gym. I love feeling athletic and capable. Pregnancy has humbled me in every way — I’m weaker, I’ve gained weight (a good thing!), I get winded easily, and my recovery from any workout is significantly slower. Reframing what movement means right now has been huge: it’s not about performance. It’s about preparation.

    Posture

    Posture becomes critically important in the third trimester as your centre of gravity shifts forward with your growing bump. Poor posture heading into surgery can contribute to back pain during recovery and make it harder to move comfortably in those early post-op days. I’m consciously working on keeping my shoulders back, my ribcage stacked over my pelvis, and not letting my lower back overarch. Simple daily habit: every time I sit down at my desk, I do a quick posture check. Two seconds, real difference.

    The big muscles: glutes, back, and core

    These three muscle groups are the most impacted by pregnancy and c-section recovery, and the ones I know from personal experience I need most in the postpartum period.

    Glutes: Strong glutes support your pelvis, reduce lower back strain, and are essential for the functional movements of early postpartum life — getting in and out of bed, climbing stairs, picking things up from the floor. After a c-section, you won’t be able to engage your core normally, so your glutes become even more important as a primary stabilizer.

    Back: Carrying a baby, nursing, and the awkward sleeping positions of late pregnancy all take a toll on your upper and lower back. Building back strength now means you’re heading into the postpartum period with more resilience.

    Core (specifically deep core and pelvic floor): Even though you’re having a c-section and not a vaginal birth, your pelvic floor is still under significant pressure from carrying a pregnancy. And your deep core — the transverse abdominis — is the muscle that will be cut and repaired during surgery. Activating and strengthening it before surgery, through breath work and gentle core engagement, has been shown to support faster recovery afterward. I’ve been trialing the Bloom Method for this and finding it really helpful for cues on engaging my deep core without creating intra-abdominal pressure.

    Daily movement and nutrition

    I’m keeping my workouts to 20–30 minutes, focusing on consistency over intensity. Right now, I’m doing a mix of bodyweight work, light strength training, Pilates-inspired movements, and a weekly swimming session that I’ve completely fallen in love with. (Haven’t read my swimming post yet? Check it out here!)

    On the nutrition side, I’m being as specific as I can because I find most c-section prep content glosses over it. Iron matters significantly going into surgery due to blood loss — I’m taking my supplement consistently paired with vitamin C for absorption, and prioritizing iron-rich foods. Protein at every meal supports muscle maintenance and gives my body the building blocks for tissue repair. Hydration — dehydration heading into surgery can affect anaesthesia and recovery. I keep a large water bottle on me at all times and add electrolytes when I have them.

    What I’m not stressing about:

    The weight gain and the muscle loss. I have the rest of my life to address both, and I know from experience that I came back stronger after my second c-section than I was before my first pregnancy. Right now, my only job is to prepare as well as I can for what’s ahead.

    Part 2: Getting My Life Ready

    Logistics and childcare

    The best thing about a scheduled c-section is that you know the date. That makes logistics infinitely more manageable when you have other children depending on you. I’ve coordinated childcare for my two toddlers for the day of surgery and the days following, with my parents staying nearby to help. If you have older kids, get this locked in as early as possible — it is one of the biggest sources of mental load in the final weeks.

    Preparing my toddlers

    This has been one of the most intentional parts of my prep. A few things that are working:

    Framing the baby as “their” baby. We talk about “our baby” constantly. My toddlers touch my belly, talk to the baby, and we’ve made sure to frame it as something exciting that’s happening for them.

    Talking about mommy’s “boo-boo.” I’ve explained in simple terms that mommy will have a boo-boo on her tummy and won’t be able to pick them up for a while. We’ve been practicing walking and holding hands instead, which my youngest has surprisingly embraced during her current independent phase.

    More daddy time. I’ve intentionally organized more one-on-one time between my husband and our daughter so she’s comfortable with him as her primary caregiver during my early recovery.

    After my second c-section, not being able to lift my firstborn was genuinely one of the hardest parts emotionally. I want to set everyone up better this time.

    Setting up for recovery at home

    Before I leave for the hospital, I’m setting up my bedroom so I can roll out of bed with minimal core engagement — extra pillows for an inclined sleeping position, a clear path to the bathroom, and everything I need within arm’s reach. I’m also creating supply stations beside the bed and on the couch so I’m not walking to another room for anything in week one. Small setup, enormous difference.

    Since I’m taking more time off work before my due date this time, I’m also planning to batch cook and freeze meals while my toddlers are at daycare — simple, nutritious, high in iron and protein, re-heatable.

    For the hospital bag, check out my post on my minimalist hospital bag checklist for Ontario moms including a c-section specific section — link here. Short version: you need less than you think.

    What I’m not stressing about

    Leaving my kids for the hospital stay. After my second c-section I was so anxious to get home to my son that I pushed to leave early — and ended up back in the ER ten hours later with trapped air from the surgery pressing on my diaphragm, struggling to breathe. Talks of emergency surgery with a brand new newborn in my arms is not something I’m in a hurry to repeat. This time I’m staying as long as the hospital will have me. My kids love their grandparents. They will be okay.

    Part Three: Getting Myself Mentally Prepared

    The strange anxiety of knowing exactly what’s coming

    I want to name something undertalked about in the repeat c-section community: the anxiety of knowing. With a first c-section, you’re scared of the unknown. With a repeat, you’re scared of the known. You remember the shaking on the operating table, your arms being strapped down, the pressure and the pulling, the first time you tried to sit up afterward. That is a different kind of anxiety and it deserves to be acknowledged.

    Visualization

    I’ve been using visualization the way an athlete would before a big competition — closing my eyes and walking through the surgery: the spinal, the pressure, the moment I hear the baby cry. I picture a smooth procedure, a calm operating room, a healthy baby, a recovery that goes as planned. Research on surgical outcomes consistently shows that mental preparation and positive visualization are associated with better recovery experiences. This is not woo — it is evidence-based practice.

    Journaling prompts that are actually helping me

    • What am I most afraid of, specifically? Is the fear based on something that actually happened before, or is it anticipatory?
    • What went well in my previous recovery that I want to repeat?
    • What do I wish I’d done differently that I can change this time?
    • What does a “good” fourth trimester look like for me and my family?
    • What if the best-case scenario happens instead of the worst. What would that look like for me?
    • What am I most looking forward to in the hospital? What do I most want to remember about this time?

    Leaning on my support system

    My parents being nearby after the surgery is something I don’t take for granted. If you have people who have offered to help — let them. Give them specific jobs: a meal, a toddler pickup, a grocery run. People want to help and they do it better when you tell them how.

    I’ve also intentionally bought comfortable, high-waisted recovery clothing I actually like (Athleta has been my go-to for cute leisure clothes, but Amazon has been great for cheap finds like these shorts and these tank tops). After my second c-section I wore whatever was around and felt frumpy for weeks. This time I have soft, stretchy pieces that sit above my incision and make me feel like a person rather than a patient. It sounds small. It isn’t.

    Amazon Basics Tank Tops
    Athletic Shorts from Amazon

    What I Wish I’d Known Before My Second C-Section

    • The scar will likely look the same as your first after it heals — don’t panic in the early weeks
    • Sensation loss is common and often temporary — give it a full year before drawing conclusions
    • The “misshapen” stomach look in early recovery is swelling — it resolves
    • Trapped gas pain can radiate to your shoulder and feel terrifying. Chew gum, walk laps around the ward, and it will pass. Knowing it might happen makes it significantly less scary.
    • There is no gold star for going home early from the hospital. Stay as long as they’ll have you.
    • You will come out the other side stronger than you went in — I genuinely believe that, because it happened to me

    How I’m Feeling: Ready (Mostly)

    I’m somewhere between excited and wistful, and I’m letting myself be both.

    This is my last pregnancy. I’ve been either pregnant or with a baby since 2021 and there’s something bittersweet about closing that chapter. But there’s also something beautiful about going into it with experience — knowing that the fears I have now will be a memory in a year, that the baby phase moves faster than you can believe, and that the snuggles in those first few weeks are unlike anything else in the world.

    I’m ready to meet this baby. I’m ready to see my toddlers become big siblings. And I’m as prepared as I know how to be. 💛

    This post is based on my personal experience and research background — it is not medical advice. Always consult your OB, midwife, or healthcare provider about your specific situation.

    Related posts: [Ontario Hospital Bag Checklist] | [My Prenatal Swimming Obsession] | [The Living Room Workout I Do With Toddlers Around]

  • Ontario Moms Hospital Bag Checklist: What You Actually Need, What You Don’t, and C-Section Options

    Ontario Moms Hospital Bag Checklist: What You Actually Need, What You Don’t, and C-Section Options

    Every hospital bag list I found while prepping for my first two babies made it feel like I was packing for a week-long vacation.

    There are so many extra items included that it quickly becomes confusing and overwhelming to figure out what you’ll actually need—especially if it’s your first baby. If you don’t know what to expect, you might find yourself clicking “add to cart” for everything.

    I still have items from my first baby that I never used. They’re sitting in my bathroom drawer because I feel too guilty to throw them away. Anyone need some hemorrhoid pads?

    I’ve put together a realistic, minimalist hospital bag list for moms giving birth in an Ontario hospital. Not every hospital provides the same items, so keep that in mind as you go through the list.

    My biggest piece of advice before we dive in: you don’t need to overpack.

    Amazon delivers quickly, drugstores stay open late, and you’re not giving birth in the remote tundra. If you forget something, someone can grab it for you.

    You don’t need to pack “just in case.”

    If you’re planning your hospital bag and just want someone to tell you exactly what to bring (without overthinking it), I’ve linked a few of my go-to items throughout this post to keep things simple.

    Quick Hospital Bag Checklist (If You Need to Pack Now)

    If you’re like me and ended up delivering with very little notice. Hello, cholestasis at 37 weeks! Here’s what I’d recommend you pack:

    • ID + health card
    • Comfortable clothes
    • Toiletries (toothbrush, contacts/glasses, facewash, dry shampoo)
    • Baby outfit
    • Diapers + diaper cream + wipes
    • Phone + charger

    👉 Think trip to your parent’s house, rather than girl’s trip to Mexico. In other words, the vibe is relaxing on a couch with people bringing you food rather than you putting on a full-face of makeup and a cute outfit.

    Minimalist Hospital Bag Checklist for Ontario Hospitals:

    Here’s the full checklist with my suggestions. I’ve broken it down into 3 sections: For You, For Baby, and For Labour.

    For You:

    • Loose, relaxed-fitting clothes. During your stay you’ll most likely be closer to your pregnancy sizing. Try the clothes on before you head to the hospital and make sure you feel good in them. Draw strings and loose, breast-feeding friendly tops are your friend.
    • Nursing bra. You honestly really only need one or maybe nothing at all. You should aim for a bra that provides some more stretch than structure. Your milk will be coming in, and your breasts will grow with your supply. My favourite nursing bralette is from the LoveSteady Company. (I’ve linked it here in case you want to check it out). It’s especially great for the first few days post-partum. I would suggest sizing on the smaller side for this bralette if you’re on the fence about sizes.
    • Underwear, pads or diapers. You can bring some regular underwear, but I’d recommend bringing some disposable underwear to wear when you leave the hospital. The hospital does provide a mesh, disposable underwear for you to place a pad in after you give birth, and this can be reused with clean pads. However, I was only ever able to get one from my nurses. So, bring your own just for comfort and to avoid any awkwardness. You don’t need the expensive influencer ones (Frida Mom I’m looking at you). Something simple and comfortable will do. (These are similar to the ones I used if you want an easy option).
    • Toiletries. Unless you’re someone who really loves wearing makeup. You can pare down your products and focus on keeping a minimal face. Think make-up remover, face wash, lotion, tinted sunscreen, and mascara. I also had an IV for my pregnancies and for some reason felt like it gave me a nice, hydrated glow for the first few days and I did not feel like putting on makeup at all. Also bring deodorant. I use Routine deodorant and love it – it’s simple, clean, and actually works. (Linking it here in case you’re curious).
    • Dry shampoo. I am personally not taking a shower in the hospital unless I really need to. I’d rather use dry shampoo, wipes, and wait until I’m home.

    For Baby:

    • Going-home outfit.
    • Blanket. For the car seat.
    • Car seat. The hospital will not let you leave without showing a nurse that you can safely place your newborn in the seat.
    • Diapers, wipes, and cream. Many Ontario hospitals provide some diapers and wipes, but supplies and sizes vary, so I’d recommend bringing your own.

    For Labour (Vaginal and C-Section Prep): Pre and Post

    • Water bottle
    • A distraction. This can be a movie that you watch, or it can be games on your phone.
    • Pillow or blanket from home.

    This list is short for a reason. You really don’t need much for your birth. I’m sure there might be some women who disagree, but as long as you have comfy clothes and adult diapers/pads for leaving the hospital, you’re all set. During contractions you’re really just surviving so unless you have something super specific that you want to bring, you don’t need much here. If you are having a c-section, the main requirement is that if you wear contacts, that you swap them for your glasses during the surgery. Otherwise, you’re almost completely naked on the table, save for the surgical draping, for the approximately 1-hour long surgery.

    What You DON’T Need:

    • A birthing gown or special PJs

    This is a hill I will die on: you do not need a special birthing gown. I used the hospital provided gowns almost exclusively the entire time I was in the hospital with my first two babies, or I was completely naked under the hospital bed sheets. You really don’t need to spend money on PJs you’ll realistically only use once. If you’re someone that really values comfort, go for it! But buy something cheaper or get it from Winners/Amazon. Also, if your water breaks, it is breaking all over that gown. You’re going to want to change into a clean one asap, and that will be the gown provided by the hospital.

    • Grippy Socks or slippers

    This is something I didn’t have for my other births and I was fine. I was really only walking around my hospital room, and I felt fine doing so in my bare feet. Obviously, this comes down to your personal preference, but your stay won’t be ruined if you don’t have something fuzzy on your feet. Worst case scenario, pack Birkenstocks or sandals (something you already have).

    • Extra clothes for mom

    I found I wore the hospital gowns provided my whole stay and really only changed into real clothes when I was leaving. Again, this is personal preference and does come down to how long you’re staying. Also, you will want to dress for the weather that you’re having your baby in. In colder weather this means you might just need to bring a hoody or a robe. Generally, I’d pack max two outfits for mom and one of them you can wear to the hospital.

    • Extra clothes for baby

    My kids spent a lot of their early hospital time swaddled or pressed up to mom/dad naked under a blanket. At maximum, I would pack 3 onesies or sleepers, either long sleeve or short, depending on the weather.

    • Paperwork (*caveat is to not stress about this)

    Usually, your OB or Midwife will provide a hospital package if you’re giving birth at a hospital. This package gives an overview of your birth plan, and if you’re having a scheduled c-section, it will provide details about your surgery (date/time/location). Sometimes, it includes consent forms. If you forget this at home, please know that it will not be the end of the world. The hospital usually has these packages available, and you can fill them out in your room.

    • Peri-bottle or post-birth care products

    The hospital I gave birth at had a peri bottle available for me to use. Granted, it wasn’t free to keep, but it made me bringing my own unnecessary. Unless you’re super attached to your peri-bottle, you can leave it at home. I would also suggest avoiding bringing a lot of post-birth care products such as perineal spray, cooling pads, hemorrhoid pads, or anything else that’s recommended as a product to be used “down there” after a vaginal birth. Similarly, for a c-section, you don’t need scar cream, silicone scar tape, or a belly binder so soon after surgery. Often for any stitches or cuts, you’ll want to keep the area clean, dry, and bandaged. Further, given how unpredictable birth can be, with even the same mom having a different experience with each birth, I’d recommend waiting until after baby comes before requesting anything related to healing. Wait to see what you need.

    • Snacks or lots of food

    Some people might disagree with this one. But I really feel strongly that you don’t need to bring a lot of snacks or food with you. I found I hardly touched the food I brought and seemed to gravitate towards the vending machine or ordering food from outside the hospital. The whole experience is new and unless the hospital food and cafeteria are absolute garbage, you’re going to want to try it at least once. I also found shortly after giving birth, that the food I craved was healthy and nutrient dense. Think fruit smoothies and macro bowls. I was asking my husband and mom to order food out for me a lot.

    • Breast Pump
    • Nursing Pillow

    My Personal Recommendations

    • Nipple cream. Unfortunately, breastfeeding or chestfeeding can be uncomfortable and painful at first. Both you and your baby are learning what works and sometimes this can result in red, chafed, nipples. I found the Earth Mama nipple cream to be especially healing during those first few days. It’s a bit on the greasier side, but it works! (You can find it here if you want to try it out).
    • Gum. For those moms who will be having a c-section, a little-known side-effect can be trapped gas in your abdomen. It usually manifests as a very sore shoulder, and in some cases, difficulty breathing when you change positions. I know this from first-hand experience. Gum is often recommended as a tool to alleviate any trapped gases as it encourages movement in your bowels. Walking and walking often is another recommended option.
    • Beer or fun drinks. I’m not saying get absolutely plastered at the hospital, I’m only suggesting bringing something fun with you to celebrate your baby’s birth. This can be a fun mocktail or a seltzer. It just elevated the whole experience and made the mood more celebratory.
    • Book on post-partum care. I found I cared the most about what to do post-partum when I was immediately post-partum. I bought Postnatal Pilates: a Recovery and Strength Guide for Life by Anya Hayes and found myself going back to it constantly in those first few days. (Linking it here if you want something helpful to reference).
    • Movies or media. Watching a hospital TV is a similar experience to watching a hotel TV. It’s new and exciting to channel surf for the first few hours but gets old very quick. You’ll be up nursing your new baby very frequently (every 2 hours or less), so you’ll want to have something engaging to watch or focus on.

    Download this Checklist:

    If you want something simple and stress-free (without overthinking this), I created a printable version of this checklist you can follow step-by-step.

    It also includes a partner checklist and extra tips from my first two births.

    Click here to get my Minimalist Hospital Bag Checklist!
  • I Didn’t Expect This During My Third Pregnancy: Anxiety

    I Didn’t Expect This During My Third Pregnancy: Anxiety

    Is Anxiety During Pregnancy Normal?

    Anxiety during pregnancy is actually very common. Many expectant mothers experience moments of worry, racing thoughts, or feeling overwhelmed — especially if they’ve had complications in previous pregnancies. The challenge can be knowing when these feelings are normal pregnancy worries and when they might be signs of prenatal anxiety.

    I’m pregnant with my third baby! Since this is my third “rodeo”, a lot of things have felt very familiar, but what I didn’t expect this time around was the anxiety that came with it.

    We’re over the moon excited to be expanding our family and I daydream daily about the full table I’ll have filled with love. However, I’ve been struggling with moments of feeling overwhelmed and just a general sense of unease that’s making it hard to lean into the bittersweet moments of what will be my last pregnancy.

    My Experience with Pregnancy Anxiety:

    For me, I’ve had intrahepatic cholestasis of pregnancy for my first two pregnancies (let me know if you’d like me to write a post about my experiences with it!). Because I’ve had it before, I know I’ll likely get it again. That makes it hard not to be hypersensitive to every little itch on my hands and feet. One small twinge can send me into a thought spiral of “this is it, I have it again” and my brain refuses to listen to reason. I.e. like it’s pretty early to be getting it, your skin is just dry, the itching went away etc.. etc.. Also, I will be having a C-Section and the idea of another surgery and recovery is something that does scare me.

    And oh man, the number of “what if…?” questions that pop into my head have been really tough. There are so many horror stories online and there truly is a balance to staying informed versus being overburdened with the worst-case scenarios.

    Some days are really good, especially when the February sun is out and the birds are chirping. Other days, I’m a tightly wound ball of nerves that could have a little “menty-b” (mental breakdown) if a sad song comes on my playlist. Some country songs honestly need to be outlawed on public radio.

    In the evenings, after a long day of working full-time and running after my two littles, I also feel like the only thing my brain can focus on is worry. It’s like it says, “hey girlie, which worry from your suuuuuper long list do you want to tackle tonight? If you’re feeling up to it, we can cycle through 2! or even 3!”

    So, I’ve been asking myself, “is this normal?” And I looked into it.

    The short answer is: yes, it is.

    The long answer is: if it’s affecting you daily, there are solutions, and you’re not alone.

    So, if you’re experiencing something similar, please breathe a sigh of relief and take a relaxing nap or a bath, because everything will be ok.

    Normal Pregnancy Worry vs Prenatal Anxiety:

    Anxiety can be a big scary word that gets tossed around easily and it is a normal part of life even outside of being pregnant. But anxiety does exist on a spectrum with fluctuations being common. Pregnancy in particular, with all its hormonal shifts, sleep problems, birth anticipation, and work/life/family changes, can all contribute to feelings of anxiety and lack of control.

    However, normal pregnancy worry is often something that is transient. Meaning that it comes and goes. Today can be better than yesterday or even your afternoon can be better than your morning. Normal worry is often tied to specific triggers, like watching a particularly traumatic news segment or hearing your neighbor talk about their birth story. Further, this worry does get worse when you’re tired or stressed and you just don’t have the mental strength to overcome it or think clearly.

    Overall, normal pregnancy worry is just a small part of your day or week, it doesn’t feel like it’s consuming you or taking over your life. If you’re struggling with leaving your home, interacting with others, or ruminating for days, then it’s possible that you might have “prenatal anxiety”.

    Prenatal anxiety is persistent worry that consumes most days of your week. Often, it can result in trouble sleeping due to worry. I know sleep can be elusive during pregnancy, but this is a sleep disturbance beyond the common aches and pains of pregnancy. It is feeling constantly on edge or keyed up. Generally, with prenatal anxiety, moms-to-be report extreme difficulty in enjoying their pregnancy.

    How to Cope with Pregnancy Anxiety:

    So, if pregnancy anxiety is normal—but still overwhelming—what can you actually do about it? You can:

    1. Name the feeling: simply acknowledging that you’re feeling anxious can help you work towards feeling better.
    2. Keep a journal or diary and write down the thoughts that are causing you worry. Sometimes putting them down on paper minimizes the impact that they have.
    3. Reduce your triggers. If a certain social media account just gets you spiraling every time, no matter how good-intentioned it is, maybe it’s time to mute them or take a social media break. Honestly, we could all do this.
    4. Create a routine that you follow when you feel anxious or create a list of things that you know make you feel good. This could be calling a friend/family member, listening to music, getting some movement in, or just walking outside and breathing fresh air. Find what works specifically for you.
    5. Give yourself permission to rest. This one is hard, especially if you have other young children that you’re responsible for. But maybe, you just request an evening to yourself if you’re able to do so. Perhaps your husband does bath time, or maybe your mother-in-law bakes cookies with them? Find an hour to yourself if you can and use that time to rest and recharge.
    6. Take something off your plate. Are you feeling extra overwhelmed because trying to cook dinner with your kids screaming and crying after school is just too much? Can you sign up for a meal service? Or try meal prepping on the weekend when you have more flexibility. Let go of perfection and maybe also lean into chicken nuggets and frozen peas for a little while. Similarly, maybe the laundry just doesn’t get folded. Your family will still be able to get dressed if their clothes are in a pile. Better yet, off-load your chores to someone else. You’re growing a baby for goodness sakes!
    7. Create a happiness list. I have photos of my kids, happy TV shows, rom-com audio books and feel-good music on my rotation that I cycle through when I want a boost of dopamine. It’s also a great way to remind yourself that good things exist outside of your racing thoughts.
    8. Lean into what you can control. I believe pregnancy is particularly stressful for me because I don’t have constant feedback on how everything is going in my belly. For my situation, what I can control is my diet, exercise, and mindset. I can avoid sugar (which I’ve read can exacerbate cholestasis), and I can say positive things to myself.

    When to Talk to a Doctor:

    If you’re finding that more often than not, you’re feeling like your anxiety is taking over and the strategies above just are not working for you, it might be time to reach out to someone who can help. It’s important to know that this is something that you should not have to struggle through, there is help available and while reaching out might be the hardest step, it does not mean there is anything wrong with you or that you are less than.

    Primary care providers (or your OB/GYN) are here to support you and can provide referrals to mental health services, therapists, and in certain cases can suggest medications or treatments that will make a huge difference.

    Please reach out if you or your family is noticing that:

    • Your anxiety is increasing and does not seem to be ebbing and flowing
    • Your sleep is consistently disrupted, broken, or just “not enough”
    • You are feeling like you’re unable to cope with daily tasks, you’re ruminating for days, and things that once brought you joy no longer do.

    Asking for help does not mean you’re weak or broken. It actually means you are strong and you care about yourself, your family, and your baby. No one should have to experience this, especially not alone, and there are solutions.

    Pregnancy Is Hard and You’re Not Alone:

    Growing a baby is tough stuff. And while a lot of it is viewed with rose coloured glasses, there are some aspects of pregnancy that are nerve-racking, scary, and confusing.

    Know that fluctuations in your mood are normal and that you’re not the only pregnant person who feels this way. But also know, that if you feel something is off and you’re really struggling or lacking support, there are people who want to help you.

    Pregnancy can be beautiful, but it can also be overwhelming and uncertain.

    If you’re feeling anxious, worried, or just not like yourself right now, please know that you’re not alone. Many moms experience this—even during pregnancies they deeply wanted and planned.

    Give yourself grace. You’re doing something incredible.

    Sources:

    • American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists
    • March of Dimes – Mental health during pregnancy
    • Postpartum Support International – Perinatal anxiety information
  • In Defense of the Lazy Mom (Especially at Christmas)

    In Defense of the Lazy Mom (Especially at Christmas)

    Fa la la la laaaaa

    Every year around this time, my social media feed fills up with images of moms who seem to have mastered Christmas. Perfectly coordinated pajamas. Homemade hot chocolate bombs. Gingerbread houses that look like they were designed by professional architects. Elves on shelves living their best (and most mischievous) lives. And I love the idea of it all. Everything looks and seems perfect.

    But then I play the comparison game, and I realize I don’t even have an elf on the shelf. My Christmas gifts will most all likely be bought in the three days before Christmas. And the baking I do will be a Pinterest versus reality type situation.

    I’ve noticed that I start to feel the little mom-guilt itch kick in, and I keep thinking I should be doing more. As mom, aren’t I the one responsible for creating the loving childhood memories my kids will look back on fondly? What if everything I’m trying hard to do just doesn’t cut it?

    But I’ve decided that needs to change. I’m embracing my inner “lazy mom” — and I think she might be the best version of me yet.

    What Being a “Lazy Mom” Really Means

    Let’s be clear: when I say lazy, I don’t mean careless or useless. I mean calm. Intentional. Grounded.

    Being a “lazy mom” doesn’t mean you love your kids any less. It means you’ve decided to stop running yourself into the ground trying to prove how much you love them. It’s choosing presence over perfection, connection over chaos, and laughter over lists.

    Because honestly? Our kids don’t care about themed wrapping paper or hand-painted ornaments. They care about us — the tone of our voice, the way we smile when they show us something, the moments when we’re really there.

    The Pressure to Be the “Perfect Mom”

    Somehow, motherhood — especially during the holidays — has become a performance (and in some circles, a competition).

    We’re expected to create traditions that are magical, meals that are 5 courses, and memories that dazzle on camera. There’s this unspoken rule that a “good mom” goes above and beyond at Christmas. And does it all with perfect makeup, a bouncy blow-out, and the cutest clothes.

    Who are we trying to impress? My 3-year-old wears his pants backward and takes his shirt off the first chance he gets.

    I know behind every perfect Instagram photo or TikTok reel is a mom who probably hasn’t sat down all day. Who’s exhausted. Who’s trying so hard to make it special that she’s missing it while it’s happening. Who probably feels like she’s not being appreciated for all the work she’s putting in.

    And if we’re being honest — none of that pressure is what Christmas is about.

    “Why is this so important? Christmas is about more than just ribbons and bows.”

    Cindy Lou Who

    The Magic of Letting Go

    When I vocalized the permission to do less and be lazy, everything changed. A weight (one Santa’s bag of presents worth) I didn’t know I was carrying disappeared.

    This year, instead of baking four kinds of cookies, all iced with intricate designs. We’re making one batch — maybe it will be the pre-cut kind from the grocery store or maybe it will be homemade. We’ll see how we feel. My kids can overload, *cough*, I mean decorate them with so much icing they become inedible and I won’t be able to give them to anyone outside our family, but we will have the best time. This is what I want to remember: not everyone swooning over the pretty cookies, but the little giggles we had making them.

    Maybe we won’t wear the adorable matching Christmas pajamas, and everyone can wear what they want. For my son, that means clothing optional and my daughter will probably wear something with a unicorn or a cat. It will still be a cozy, messy, joy-filled Christmas morning that feels more us than anything.

    And here’s the thing I’m realizing when you stop chasing perfection or the approval of other, you make space for connection with those who matter the most.

    Your Kids Don’t Need the “Most” — They Need You

    Our kids aren’t keeping score or setting expectations. They won’t remember whether the wrapping paper and bow matched or if the tree was decorated just so. They’ll remember the feeling of the holidays. The warmth of being together, the laughter echoing through the house, the peace of a mom who wasn’t rushing, huffing, or worrying.

    So maybe being a “lazy mom” isn’t lazy at all. Maybe it’s brave. Maybe it’s choosing to step off the hamster wheel of comparison and say, “what I’m doing is enough. I am enough.”

    “Maybe Christmas doesn’t come from a store. I think maybe Christmas means a little bit more.”

    Cindy Lou Who

    This Christmas, Let’s Redefine “Lazy”

    Let’s choose rest and relaxation. Let’s choose joy. Let’s choose messy bun imperfection.

    Let’s buy the desserts, skip the matching outfits, and say yes to the perfectly imperfect real-life moments that make this season meaningful.

    Because at the end of the day, our kids won’t remember how picture-perfect it looked — they’ll remember how they felt.

    And if it felt calm, cozy, and full of love — that’s the kind of Christmas worth celebrating.

    Maybe being a lazy mom isn’t lazy at all — maybe it’s just a mom who finally knows what matters most.

  • 7 Ways I Stopped the Negative Self-Talk Spiral (And What I Want to Model for My Kids)

    7 Ways I Stopped the Negative Self-Talk Spiral (And What I Want to Model for My Kids)

    This post is going to be a little bit more vulnerable than usual.

    Recently, I messed up. I thought something was scheduled on a certain day, so I rearranged my entire work schedule around it. I made a big deal about needing time off and asked for an accommodation that ended up mildly inconveniencing others.

    Long story short: I thought my kids’ daycare had a day off when they didn’t. I still have no idea why I even thought that, and my husband and I have been joking that I must have dreamt it.

    Sounds pretty harmless, right? And it was. But what really stuck with me was what I said to myself after I found out I was wrong. I called myself stupid, a dummy, air-headed. I completely tore myself down.

    Try not to sweat the small stuff. Life is full of mistakes.

    Even writing this out now, I realize how ridiculous it sounds. It was such a small mistake. To quote Kourtney Kardashian, “Kim, there’s people that are dying.”

    What also bothered me was realizing how I was modeling that kind of self-talk to my kids. I’d be devasted if they spoke to themselves the way I just did.

    Once that clicked, I knew I needed to change something, and fast. I was on a one-way trip to “Ruminating-All-Night-Town”, so I had to stop the spiral.

    How I Turned My Night Around

    1. Wallow… then move on

    If you need to, let yourself wallow. Sit in your self-pity for 5-10 minutes. It’s like eating too much Halloween Candy. You have a bunch after trick r’ treating and you get it out of your system. Set a timer, feel the feelings, then move on.

    2. Stop the negative self-talk

    Catch yourself in the act. Would you say that to your best friend? No? Then don’t say it to yourself. Words have power.

    3. Talk to someone

    I always call my mom. She knows how to provide comfort and perspective. In this case, she laughed, which honestly, I needed. It helped me take myself a little less seriously. If you don’t feel like talking, try journaling.

    4. Give yourself grace

    You’re human. I have two young kids (I know, I mention it a lot), and I’m running on a pretty constant sleep deficit. Mistakes are going to happen. I will make more mistakes. My husband will make mistakes. Your coworker, your neighbour, your barista, your best friend etc… will make mistakes. Own them, learn from them, and try again.

    5. Go for a walk

    This one helped the most. Moving my body helped me process everything and literally walk away from the negativity. It gave my nervous energy a purpose and cleared my head.

    6. Ask yourself: will this matter in a year?

    In a week? In a day? Probably not. I realized that in 48 hours no one will care. Of course, it’ll be a funny story later… but no one will “care”.

    7. Reframe your mindset

    Is there a small silver lining? For me, I still took the day off, and clearly, I needed it. I got a bonus day to rest, catch up, and reset. I felt so much better afterward.

    I can be a person who has anxiety, but I don’t anxiety to have me. I want my kids to see that it’s okay to mess up. It’s how you recover that really matters.

    These small mindset shifts can really make a big difference when you’re dealing with disappointment or a wave of self-criticism.

    Have you ever spiraled over a small mistake? What helps you get back on track?

  • Hey Mom, get a hobby!

    Hey Mom, get a hobby!

    Why should kids have all the fun?

    A few months ago, I had an epiphany that changed my whole perspective. I’m enrolling my 3-year-old into all these fun sports and activities and he’s having the best time having something to look forward to during the week. Why am I not doing the same for myself?

    It was getting to the point where every day started to feel like a carbon copy of the one before: a mad dash to work, actual work, dinner, clean-up, the never-ending bedtime routine, then collapse into bed and repeat. One morning, I realized I really hadn’t done anything for myself in weeks. On a whim, I decided to sign up for a reformer Pilates class. My first in-person fitness class in over 2 years. And guess what? I LOVED it.

    I didn’t just love it because of the glute burn, I loved it because it was “me time”. It was something I had in my calendar that was just for me, no small children in attendance, no chores or to-do list involved. I walked to the class, listened to a podcast on the way, did the class, and came back refreshed, a little sore, and so ready to jump back into being a mom.

    I had been spending so much time focused on my kids and what activities they should be doing next, that I forgot I’m here too. I’ve enrolled my boy in soccer, gymnastics, skating, swimming, but had put my interests on the backburner.

    Once I realized that I could enroll myself in fun classes or try new things, I started brainstorming easy ways to do that, because afterschool/afterwork hobbies aren’t just for kids. There really are so many activities you can do to cultivate your “mom me-time” and get your spark back.

    The social recharge: wine and paint nights, book clubs, walking groups

    The something new energy: pottery, paddle boarding, dance class, horse-back riding, singing lessons

    The solo reset: gardening, yoga, volunteering, painting

    The fresh air favourites: hiking, running, golf

    The energy boosters: sports clubs, fitness classes

    You don’t have to master any one thing. I’ve realized that just showing up counts. Sometimes the hobby isn’t the activity itself, it’s the permission to leave the house for yourself.

    Throw away the mom-guilt and ignore the little voice that says, “this is a waste” or “what if I don’t like it?” Any of these activities can remind you that you’re a person outside of your family, and help you come back refreshed, ready to tackle the dishes, the tantrums, or the laundry pile(s).

    Let me know if you give any of these things a try! I’m starting an indoor golf league next Monday, and I could not be more excited to have something to look forward to, something to get better at, and something where I can meet other people!

  • Mid-Week Pick-Me Up for Busy Moms

    Mid-Week Pick-Me Up for Busy Moms

    5 things you can do to get you motivated, back-on-track, and “present” with your family

    I don’t know about you, but sometimes I start to develop bad habits. I’m talking spending too much time on social media, eating too much sugar, and just genuinely being stressed out. These habits sort of snowball into each other and tend to get worse before I reach a breaking point (aka I feel exhausted and so guilty that I’m not on my best behaviour for my kids).

    A big reason this all happens is due to fatigue (being a mom is tiring!), not prioritizing myself, and just feeling a general sense of demotivation.

    So, here’s a mid-week pick-me-up list that will help you get out of a “funk”, cultivate healthier habits, and get you slowing down and appreciating the little things. January and Mondays aren’t just for starting over – let’s make Wednesdays our mid-week mood-booster!

    1) Find a fun drink and make it

    This can be fruit in water or a non-alcoholic drink. Make it something fun, hydrating or gut-boosting, and something that brings a little extra oomph over the usual.

    For Fall, I’m loving cinnamon everything. You can add sliced apples or pears, a little cinnamon, and a little maple syrup to water to have a fun hydrating autumn-themed water. Or you can make this non-alcoholic cocktail with me:

    Pumpkin Ginger Spice Spritz from Nourished with Jessica.

    2) Make a fun food/snack

    I love having a nice baked good to look forward to at work. For this season, I’m loving banana break, pumpkin muffins, pumpkin cookies, oatmeal cookies, and apple crisp. Basically, all the spicey, cozy bakes.

    I’m making these healthy pumpkin swirl brownies for this weekend.

    But I’ve also recently made these apple cinnamon energy bites and I’ve been OBSESSED:

    Ingredients:

    • 1 cup rolled oats
    • 1/2 cup peanut or almond or sunflower seed butter
    • 1/4 cup honey or maple syrup (I mixed the two)
    • 1/3 cup finely chopped dried apples
    • cinnamon or pumpkin pie spice
    • mini white chocolate chips

    Add everything together in a bowl and mix. Form into tablespoon sized balls and store in the refrigerator. These taste like fall in a snack, and I love the texture of the apple pieces. I also love anything with chocolate chips in it.

    3) Prioritize 1 healthy habit

    Ok, so you’ve realized your healthy habits and goals have been slipping. Don’t stress, we’re all human. Choose one that’s going to make a big impact and make it your priority for the rest of the week. This can be drinking more water, walking more, or eating more fruits and veggies.

    For me, I’m going to make my habit putting my phone down when I’m with my children. And recognizing when I start to “doom scroll” and replace it with something better for me – like reading on my Kobo!

    4) Hit your step count

    Walking is so good for you. Just period. Straight talk. A few reasons to go for a walk:

    • you get fresh air if you walk outside
    • any kind of daily movement is good for you
    • it lowers your stress level
    • boosts your productivty and creativity
    • lowers anxiety and gets you out of your head
    • it can be used as a form of meditation and reflection

    I like to aim for 7,000 – 10,000 steps a day. Even just going for a quick 20-minute walk outside can provide you with so much benefit. For busy moms, wearing a step counter and just doing a general tidy around the house can really rack up your step count. Try to fit it in where you can, even bringing your kids with you on a walk after school or before bed can be a great way to incorporate it into your day.

    5) Schedule something for yourself

    If you take anything away from this list, I think it should be this: do something fun for you. You can schedule a nail appointment, a haircut, organize a girls’ night, go to a golf range. Just try to find something fun for yourself to do and schedule it in. Not only will you look forward to it (hello first dopamine boost) but you’ll get to have fun (hello second dopamine boost).

    I’m choosing to do a facial for myself. I haven’t been in forever, and after doing bedtimes by myself for the last week, I think I can treat myself especially well.

    Try it out!

    I hope you like this easy mid-week reset list! When you start to feel a little blah and unmotivated, it’s time for a bit of a brain re-set. Giving yourself these little wins and things to get excited about can really help your mood. It’s a micro-dose of romanticizing your life. These little things to boost your mood and well-being can make all the difference.

    You deserve it!

  • Golf Update #2

    Golf Update #2

    Golf is hard.

    As the end of the golf season approaches, I thought I’d do another golf update. First off, I know I’ve improved so much. Not just in my game, but my confidence. I’m no longer as nervous to play with other people, and I just have the attitude of going out there and having fun! I’ve learned a lot, and it’s been fun having a completely new hobby for me.

    What I’ve done since my last update:

    I’ve finished up my fall golf ladies league with Iron Ladies golf, and I had such a positive experience. Not only did I get to know some great women, but I also got out of the house and was able to enjoy the last remaining beautifully warm days of September. We had a games night, and I won the closest to the pin on a par 3. To me, that’s absolutely unreal and I never would have guessed I could do that if you had asked me at the start of my playing (just over 3 months ago).

    I did have such a great experience that I will be joining their fall indoor league. Mostly, to keep up what I’ve learned and to have something to look forward to as the days get colder and darker.

    I’ve also continued to golf a bit here and there with my husband when we have the childcare available. We just golfed the Homestead at Wolf Ridge Golf Course in Killaloe when we were visiting my parents for Thanksgiving and the colours of the leaves were breath taking.

    Not my best photo – I was just too dialed in to take anything. Also, my fingers were cold. But Wolf Ridge is one of my favourite courses!

    What I’m working on:

    My driver is my biggest work-in-progress. I’m slicing right almost every time. I’ve recently adjusted my grip (i.e. my husband suggested the grip change last week), and if that’s the magic key I’ll be a happy girl.

    I’m feeling good with my pitching and sand wedge. But me and my irons are not friends.

    So overall, I’ve got a bunch of things to work on over the indoor league and I’m feeling stoked for that opportunity.

    What I’ve learned over the last few months:

    I did want to put together a list of things I wish I had the opportunity to tell myself when I first started playing. Hopefully, they might help someone else who is starting out!

    1. Golf is hard. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can be as good as some people who have played for years. But the learning and the growing are the fun parts. You’ll make an amazing putt, drive or chip and that will keep you coming back.
    2. There is no one way to swing a golf club. There are obviously better ways, but often you have to be the one to find them for yourself. What works for the pro at the course might not work for you.
    3. Use each hole as a blank slate. The terrible putting you did on the last hole doesn’t have to follow you the whole game.
    4. Cute clothes make the biggest difference. If you feel cute, you’ll play better. It’s science.
    5. Practice. No explanation needed.

    I hope you all had a great golf season! See you on my next golf update!

  • How to Fight the Monday Blues

    How to Fight the Monday Blues

    I’ve taken a little bit of break since my last post just to soak up the last few days of summer before fall hits us full force. I’ve been busy with seeing family, feeling swamped at work, daycare transitions, and with trying to enjoy my own birthday.

    My daughter just transitioned from a home daycare to starting at the same care centre as my son. While my mom heart melts when I see them playing when I pick them up, and my husband reports that they hold hands when he drops them off, it’s still been a change for my little girl and something we’ve all had to adjust to. Small shout out to the runny nose and cough she’s had since the third day she started….

    Recently, I’ve been finding that I look so forward to the weekends, only to have those two precious days fly by in a blink. Then, on Monday morning I’m right back to counting down the days until the weekend and feeling a little blah. The weather getting colder and the sun rising later is also not helping.

    For this reason, I’ve decided to put together a little list on how to conquer the Monday blues and get yourself excited for the week!

    1) Designate Sunday as a “Prep” or “Reset” Day

    I like using Sundays as a planned “slower” day, and as a day to prep for the rest of the week. Some prep I like to do is:

    • Setting out clothes (the kids and my work clothes) for the week
    • Finally getting around to folding the mountains of laundry that have accumulated over the week
    • Do a light clean of the house, such as a general tidy. I like to focus on cleaning the toy room.
    • Write out a grocery list and plan some meals for the week
    • Brainstorm some activities or fun things to do with the kids

    For your Sunday, try to focus on having a calmer day. Maybe, end your Sunday night with some self-care or something relaxing before bed. My favourites are some light stretching, reading, journaling, or a lovely full body shower where you shave your legs.

    2) Allow Yourself a Reward

    I’m going to start practising “mini reward Monday”. I’ve decided that I’ll give myself permission to get that pumpkin spice latte or cold brew with pumpkin spice cold foam at Starbucks. Both absolutely awesome, especially if you get sugar-free syrup. For now, I’m just going to plan something small that gives me a little pick-me-up (or when it comes to coffee a little pep-in-my-step) to make the Monday a little brighter.

    You can also totally DIY your own versions of the Starbucks drinks pretty easily. I’ll post my own recipes later!

    3) Start with Easy Wins

    I love a slow Monday, and jumping into the hardest task on my to-do list is really hard to muster up the motivation for. I suggest tackling your easier tasks and then building up to your more involved tasks as you build momentum. Crossing easy things off your to-do list also provides such a dopamine boost that will not only lift your mood, but make you feel like you can accomplish anything.

    4) Move Your Body

    Getting up and moving is such a hack for resetting your mood and getting out of your head. You can either prioritize a work-out, stretch, or go for a walk. Since I’m lucky enough to be at home on Mondays for my job, my goal is to walk my beautiful cockapoo Abby at least twice during the day. It’s good for her and it’s good for me.

    Right now, the crispy fall weather is just starting, and it feels so cozy to go for a walk outside. I love a light jacket or sweater on my walks and it’s going to get even better when the leaves start to change.

    5) Mindset Reframes

    I love mindset reframing. It’s so helpful for your mood and your motivation. For your Monday, instead of focusing on the countdown to the weekend, or dreading the week-long slog, choose activities during the week that you’re excited for. Right now, I’m looking forward to my ladies’ golf night on Mondays and taking my kids to the library on Thursday for some new bedtime books.

    6) Reduce the Rush

    Weekends are the perfect environment to become a little lax with your routine. It can be so easy to sleep in or go to bed later when you don’t have a workday to plan around. It can be hard but try to keep your routine as consistent as possible during the weekends, though obviously an hour here or there won’t ruin things. Your Monday self will thank you when waking up for work on Monday is that much easier. No one likes a manic Monday, where you’re snoozing your alarm and rushing into work.

    Aim to give yourself at least 10 minutes in the morning to slowly start ease into your day and to get in the right headspace. Check out this post on my 10-minute morning routine for a slower, less-stressful start to your day!

    Make Monday Your Best Day of the Week

    Monday gets such a bad rap, but if you use it as a reset/mindset shift day, it can easily become your favourite day of the week. It’s an opportunity to set the tone for the week to come and to prioritize yourself.

    Let me know if you have any suggestions to help battle those pesky Monday Blues!

    Abby says “you can do it!”