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  • Goal Setting for the Winter When Your Motivation is in Hibernation

    Goal Setting for the Winter When Your Motivation is in Hibernation

    The days are getting shorter, the weather is getting snowier, and honestly? All I want to do is curl with a blanket and become one with my couch.

    Winter, especially in Ontario, can be downright dreary. It’s hard to get excited about your week when the sun starts setting at 5pm. You wake up in the dark, spend your evening in the dark, and it feels like your only goal is simply surviving until spring.

    If you’re feeling like you’re coasting through the dark months of November, December, January, and February, you’re not alone. Goal setting in Spring and Summer feels effortless: people are out, events are happening, and being active outside takes zero planning. Your goals align naturally.

    Winter? Whole different vibe.

    The brightness of summer feels too far away to motivate anything long-term, and that’s totally fine and totally normal. You’re not missing out. You’re not falling behind. You’re not unmotivated. You’re in a different season, literally and emotionally.

    Here’s the truth: you can still set meaningful winter goals without having a full vision.

    Reframe Your Winter Goals: Think Smaller, Softer, and Seasonal

    Winter goals don’t need to be ambitious or life changing. They can be tiny sparks of joy woven throughout your day or “maintenance mode” habits you’re already doing well.

    And yes, obviously, many goals in winter must adapt to the weather. Training for a marathon? Amazing. Just layer up, invest in reflective gear, and expect the occasional snow day. Feeling festive? Make a goal to keep the holiday spirit alive in small ways. Want a seasonal goal that’s purely fun? Commit to a Hallmark movie every weekend for peak cozy vibes.

    This winter season can be about:

    Clarifying, not just conquering.

    Use this time to reflect on what you want, not necessarily chasing it straightaway.

    Resetting, not reinventing.

    Winter is the year’s build-in rest. Audit your pantry, refresh your wardrobe, or learn a small skill like keeping a sourdough starter alive.

    Resting, not rushing.

    Lean into the cozy. Think blankets, coffee, quiet nights, candles, and the simple gratitude of being inside while snow falls.

    Let’s rebrand winter as a natural season for gentler, softer goal setting. Release the pressure. You’re already doing better than you think.

    Continue reading below, if you’d like some actionable tips for goal setting in the winter.


    Tip 1: Start With How You Want to Feel

    When you don’t know what your goals are yet, begin with emotions instead of outcomes.

    For example:

    • “I want to feel grounded.”
    • “I want to feel calm.”
    • “I want to feel connected.”
    • “I want to feel like I’m taking small steps forward.”

    Then, turn those feelings into micro-goals.

    • Calm → 5 minutes of breathing or stretching daily
    • Connection → Text or meet one friend per week
    • Grounded → Morning journaling or evening gratitude check-ins

    Tip 2: Choose “Low-Lift” or “Micro” Goals Over Big Resolutions

    Low-lift goals require minimal effort but have a noticeable payoff.

    Examples of a low-lift goal could be:

    • Declutter one drawer or shelf per week.
    • Add one extra glass of water to your day.
    • Take a 10-minute morning walk.
    • Replace doom scrolling with reading.
    • Light a candle and stretch at night.
    • Reduce added sugar in one small way.

    Micro-goals stack up. No big overhaul needed – just tiny degrees of improvement.


    Tip 3: Create a Winter Bucket List (Even a Tiny One)

    Seasonal goals are perfect when long-term goals feel foggy. Lean into the cozy magic of winter.

    Some Ideas:

    • Try one new cozy recipe weekly.
    • Have a winter movie night (there are so many fun Christmas movies).
    • Walk outside during a snowfall. Romantic and magical.
    • Visit a local café and treat yourself to a holiday latte.
    • Do a winter craft with your kids like making an ornament.
    • Build a snowman. And why not throw in a snow angel or an impromptu snowball fight while you’re at it!

    The key to this bucket list: it needs to feel fun, doable, seasonal, and the exact opposite of a chore list. Looking for inspiration? Check out my kid-friendly Christmas bucket list:


    Tip 4: Focus on “Maintenance Mode” Goals

    Sometimes the easiest thing to do, is to just keep doing what you’re doing. If you’ve built up a habit over the summer that you’re proud of, mark that down and make a point to keep going.

    Here are some suggested goals that aim to maintain the stability you may have already built the foundation for:

    • Keep up basic routines. Like journaling, getting your steps in, and meditation.
    • Protect your sleep. Dark months can hit your mood hard, help to prevent Seasonal Affective Disorder by getting your sleep.
    • Keep the house just organized enough. Think acceptable baseline, not perfection.
    • Support your mental health. Think going outside during the day, talking to friends, and taking vitamins.
    • Get some gentle movement in. Evening yoga or some mobility work is great during the winter. Check out YouTube for classes. Check out this mobility class from Nourish Move Love that I turn to regularly.

    These maintenance goals allow you to enter spring with energy instead of burnout.


    Tip 5: Use a Weekly Reset to Reassess What You Actually Want

    Pick a day (Sunday works well!) and check-in:

    • What worked?
    • What felt tough?
    • What lifted my mood?
    • What’s one thing I want to try next week?

    Winter is a season of reflection, so let goal setting be a conversation with yourself.


    Tip 6: Adopt the “Winter Try List” Instead of Goals

    A “try list” = no pressure to do the thing.

    What is a “try list”? It’s like a bucket list, but it focuses on things you’d maybe like to explore before fully committing to.

    Examples could be:

    • Try a new bedtime routine, like reading before bed instead of TV.
    • Try a new workout class. Finally sign up for that reformer Pilates class you’ve been eyeing.
    • Try meal-prepping 1–2 meals. Give it a try with a couple recipes rather than committing your whole week.
    • Try going to bed earlier.
    • Try going alcohol free.
    • Try marathon-style training without actually signing up.

    If it doesn’t stick? No guilt. Move on.


    Tip 7: Celebrate Micro-Accomplishments

    Winter is long, motivation is low, and every tiny win counts.

    • Went for a walk? Win.
    • Cleaned part of your house? Win.
    • Played with your kids? Win.
    • Showered on a tough day? Huge win.

    Momentum builds from the smallest sparks.


    ‘Tis the Season

    Winter goals don’t need to be grand. You really don’t have to train for that Hyrox competition, lose weight, or reinvent yourself. My own goals this season are simple: hit 8,000-10,000 steps a day, reduce my caffeine intake, and stay “unplugged” and off my phone when I’m with my kids.

    Come Spring, you’ll likely feel more clarity and motivation for something new. Until then? Grab your blanket, make a cozy Pinterest board, and just be.

    In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer.

    Albert Camus
  • The 10-Minute Morning Routine that Changed My Mom Life

    The 10-Minute Morning Routine that Changed My Mom Life

    With two kids under 4 and working full time, I find it so hard to incorporate time for myself, especially in the mornings.

    My mornings have often felt like a mad dash to get the kids dressed, fed, and driven to school. They’ve felt like Olympic sprints to beat the clock and getting myself ready and packed for work has turned into an afterthought. Man, what a way to start the day – who doesn’t love a solid dose of chaos in the morning?

    However, over the last few months, I’ve given my mornings a major overhaul and have prioritized a quick routine for myself that focusses on a slower, more relaxed start to my day. This has given me a solid foundation to be my best self to tackle whatever curve ball life throws later and I feel more organized with my family’s rush out the door.

    Read on for my life-changing 10-minute morning!

    Ground Rules:

    On Sleep: I want you to know that employing good sleep hygiene is key to a relaxed morning. This means going to bed at a reasonable time in order for you to wake up feeling rested and not like a walking zombie. There are a lot of supplements and tools, like a sunrise alarm clock, to help you fall asleep and wake up gradually. But focus on the fundamentals before spending money or time on those extras. Having a bedtime routine, reducing afternoon caffeine, and avoiding stimulating activities close to bedtime will go a long way towards improving your sleep.

    On Wake Time: If you want to have time for a 10-minute morning routine, you will also need to wake up at least 10 minutes before your children. If they’re 7am-ers, set your alarm for around 6:45am. Give yourself a buffer of at least 5 minutes.

    On Motivation: I also want you to find a motivator to wake up that truly resonates with you. Is it the alone time you crave? The first quiet sip of coffee by yourself? Or is it watching a few minutes of that highly child-inappropriate police procedural that has you excited to get out of bed? Having a good motivator is so important when the sky is still dark and it’s freezing everywhere but your bedsheets.

    On Life Phase: Please note that if you’re in the phase of life where you have a very young baby and you’re waking up multiple times in the night, this might not be something for you. And that’s ok! That’s the era you’re in, and while it doesn’t seem like it now, it won’t be forever. Enjoy those cute baby snuggles with their sweaty little heads.

    Minute 1-2: Wake-Up

    Wake up and leave your bed as soon as you can. The longer you stay, the harder it is to leave. Scrolling Instagram can also eat your time without you realizing it and then your earlier morning will be gone.

    I do not set more than 2 alarms. The first one is the time I want to get up at, say 5:15am. The second is my backup alarm in case I oversleep the first, roughly 5:30am. For me, setting only the two alarms makes me take the first alarm more seriously. Like ok, if I don’t get up now, I’m sleeping in and missing out.

    Waking up earlier does get easier the more consistent you are with your bedtime and waketime. Also, being very gradual in moving your alarms earlier does help. If I want to change wake-times, I gradually move it by 10-15 minutes each week. This gives my body plenty of time to adjust and ease into earlier wakeups without much trouble.

    I love this podcast episode by Kaylie Stewart on her Hot Girl Energy Podcast – “become a 5am morning girly”. She gives actionable advice for waking up earlier and her motivational energy is infectious.

    Minute 2-3: Body Refresh

    Splash cold water on your face. Cold water does seem to help wake me up and I also use this opportunity to put sunscreen on so that I’m ready for the day.

    Minute 3-4: Hydrate

    Hydrate with a big glass of water. I add half a pack of electrolyte powder to my very cold water in the morning and it’s something I look forward to. I find it so refreshing after waking up and I feel more energized. Right now, I’m using LMNT electrolyte powder that I order from Amazon, but any brand that you love works!

    Minute 4-5: Eat Something

    This can be a few bites of yogurt, a banana, or cottage cheese (my personal favourite). If you’re feeling fancy, you can make overnight oats. Women do need to get calories into their bodies earlier in the morning as it helps with our metabolism and our hormone regulation. I’ve been making sure I have a few bites of food in the morning for the last couple months, and I truly feel a difference in my energy levels and my mood. I don’t get those caffeine jitters anymore and mornings seem less stressful. Try to prioritize food that includes protein or complex carbohydrates to start the day off strong.

    Minute 5-6: Breathing and Affirmations

    I absolutely love affirmations. They can really help to bring you into the right headspace for your day. Spend this minute breathing deeply and relaxing into your space while saying your affirmations out loud. Saying them out-loud is key, as I find I’m more likely to believe in them when I do that.

    I try and choose 2-3 monthly affirmations that I focus on. Choosing a smaller number helps me remember them throughout the day, not just in the morning. But if that’s not your vibe, you can always decide on a daily affirmation for what you’re currently feeling.

    Minute 6-7: Light Stretching and Posture Focus

    Some gentle neck rolls, shoulder rolls, and seated leg stretches are nice to incorporate in the morning. Ease into them and have them be very light – you’re just waking up, so the goal is to just get any sleep tightness out of your body. Focus on your posture and standing or sitting up straight.

    Minute 7-8: Journal or Verbalize Gratitude

    I love journaling. This is a great opportunity to thought dump or just plan your day. You can choose a journalling prompt, free write, or write down what you’re grateful for. Some moments of quiet reflection are great to help you be present in the moment and to “slow” your mornings.

    Minute 8-10: Choose Joy

    For your last 2 minutes, do something that brings you immense joy. It can be playing music that pumps you up – I’m personally a huge fan of Taylor Swift here. It can be drinking your tea or coffee uninterrupted. It could be sitting outside in the morning and listening to the birds. Choose something that resonates with you and brings that spark to your eyes.

    Some mornings, I enjoy having a little “touchpoint” chat with my husband. We talk about the kids (since little ears can listen and understand now), chores, work, house tasks, things to plan etc… It’s a nice opportunity to check in with each other while we’re able to dedicate our full attention.

    Find Your Slow Morning

    If you follow along with these 10 minutes, at the end, you’ve cared for your body and your mind. You’ve “filled your cup” for the morning and can jump into the day with both feet!

    Feel free to edit the order of the tasks and if it’s a good day, feel free to add give yourself more time! I like to jump into my daily work out straight from this routine, and afterwards, I feel like a million bucks. Hello Supermom!

    Click below to get the checklist version of my 10-minute morning routine that you can put on your fridge or use as your phone screensaver!