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  • Ontario Moms Hospital Bag Checklist: What You Actually Need, What You Don’t, and C-Section Options

    Ontario Moms Hospital Bag Checklist: What You Actually Need, What You Don’t, and C-Section Options

    Every hospital bag list I found while prepping for my first two babies made it feel like I was packing for a week-long vacation.

    There are so many extra items included that it quickly becomes confusing and overwhelming to figure out what you’ll actually need—especially if it’s your first baby. If you don’t know what to expect, you might find yourself clicking “add to cart” for everything.

    I still have items from my first baby that I never used. They’re sitting in my bathroom drawer because I feel too guilty to throw them away. Anyone need some hemorrhoid pads?

    I’ve put together a realistic, minimalist hospital bag list for moms giving birth in an Ontario hospital. Not every hospital provides the same items, so keep that in mind as you go through the list.

    My biggest piece of advice before we dive in: you don’t need to overpack.

    Amazon delivers quickly, drugstores stay open late, and you’re not giving birth in the remote tundra. If you forget something, someone can grab it for you.

    You don’t need to pack “just in case.”

    If you’re planning your hospital bag and just want someone to tell you exactly what to bring (without overthinking it), I’ve linked a few of my go-to items throughout this post to keep things simple.

    Quick Hospital Bag Checklist (If You Need to Pack Now)

    If you’re like me and ended up delivering with very little notice. Hello, cholestasis at 37 weeks! Here’s what I’d recommend you pack:

    • ID + health card
    • Comfortable clothes
    • Toiletries (toothbrush, contacts/glasses, facewash, dry shampoo)
    • Baby outfit
    • Diapers + diaper cream + wipes
    • Phone + charger

    👉 Think trip to your parent’s house, rather than girl’s trip to Mexico. In other words, the vibe is relaxing on a couch with people bringing you food rather than you putting on a full-face of makeup and a cute outfit.

    Minimalist Hospital Bag Checklist for Ontario Hospitals:

    Here’s the full checklist with my suggestions. I’ve broken it down into 3 sections: For You, For Baby, and For Labour.

    For You:

    • Loose, relaxed-fitting clothes. During your stay you’ll most likely be closer to your pregnancy sizing. Try the clothes on before you head to the hospital and make sure you feel good in them. Draw strings and loose, breast-feeding friendly tops are your friend.
    • Nursing bra. You honestly really only need one or maybe nothing at all. You should aim for a bra that provides some more stretch than structure. Your milk will be coming in, and your breasts will grow with your supply. My favourite nursing bralette is from the LoveSteady Company. (I’ve linked it here in case you want to check it out). It’s especially great for the first few days post-partum. I would suggest sizing on the smaller side for this bralette if you’re on the fence about sizes.
    • Underwear, pads or diapers. You can bring some regular underwear, but I’d recommend bringing some disposable underwear to wear when you leave the hospital. The hospital does provide a mesh, disposable underwear for you to place a pad in after you give birth, and this can be reused with clean pads. However, I was only ever able to get one from my nurses. So, bring your own just for comfort and to avoid any awkwardness. You don’t need the expensive influencer ones (Frida Mom I’m looking at you). Something simple and comfortable will do. (These are similar to the ones I used if you want an easy option).
    • Toiletries. Unless you’re someone who really loves wearing makeup. You can pare down your products and focus on keeping a minimal face. Think make-up remover, face wash, lotion, tinted sunscreen, and mascara. I also had an IV for my pregnancies and for some reason felt like it gave me a nice, hydrated glow for the first few days and I did not feel like putting on makeup at all. Also bring deodorant. I use Routine deodorant and love it – it’s simple, clean, and actually works. (Linking it here in case you’re curious).
    • Dry shampoo. I am personally not taking a shower in the hospital unless I really need to. I’d rather use dry shampoo, wipes, and wait until I’m home.

    For Baby:

    • Going-home outfit.
    • Blanket. For the car seat.
    • Car seat. The hospital will not let you leave without showing a nurse that you can safely place your newborn in the seat.
    • Diapers, wipes, and cream. Many Ontario hospitals provide some diapers and wipes, but supplies and sizes vary, so I’d recommend bringing your own.

    For Labour (Vaginal and C-Section Prep): Pre and Post

    • Water bottle
    • A distraction. This can be a movie that you watch, or it can be games on your phone.
    • Pillow or blanket from home.

    This list is short for a reason. You really don’t need much for your birth. I’m sure there might be some women who disagree, but as long as you have comfy clothes and adult diapers/pads for leaving the hospital, you’re all set. During contractions you’re really just surviving so unless you have something super specific that you want to bring, you don’t need much here. If you are having a c-section, the main requirement is that if you wear contacts, that you swap them for your glasses during the surgery. Otherwise, you’re almost completely naked on the table, save for the surgical draping, for the approximately 1-hour long surgery.

    What You DON’T Need:

    • A birthing gown or special PJs

    This is a hill I will die on: you do not need a special birthing gown. I used the hospital provided gowns almost exclusively the entire time I was in the hospital with my first two babies, or I was completely naked under the hospital bed sheets. You really don’t need to spend money on PJs you’ll realistically only use once. If you’re someone that really values comfort, go for it! But buy something cheaper or get it from Winners/Amazon. Also, if your water breaks, it is breaking all over that gown. You’re going to want to change into a clean one asap, and that will be the gown provided by the hospital.

    • Grippy Socks or slippers

    This is something I didn’t have for my other births and I was fine. I was really only walking around my hospital room, and I felt fine doing so in my bare feet. Obviously, this comes down to your personal preference, but your stay won’t be ruined if you don’t have something fuzzy on your feet. Worst case scenario, pack Birkenstocks or sandals (something you already have).

    • Extra clothes for mom

    I found I wore the hospital gowns provided my whole stay and really only changed into real clothes when I was leaving. Again, this is personal preference and does come down to how long you’re staying. Also, you will want to dress for the weather that you’re having your baby in. In colder weather this means you might just need to bring a hoody or a robe. Generally, I’d pack max two outfits for mom and one of them you can wear to the hospital.

    • Extra clothes for baby

    My kids spent a lot of their early hospital time swaddled or pressed up to mom/dad naked under a blanket. At maximum, I would pack 3 onesies or sleepers, either long sleeve or short, depending on the weather.

    • Paperwork (*caveat is to not stress about this)

    Usually, your OB or Midwife will provide a hospital package if you’re giving birth at a hospital. This package gives an overview of your birth plan, and if you’re having a scheduled c-section, it will provide details about your surgery (date/time/location). Sometimes, it includes consent forms. If you forget this at home, please know that it will not be the end of the world. The hospital usually has these packages available, and you can fill them out in your room.

    • Peri-bottle or post-birth care products

    The hospital I gave birth at had a peri bottle available for me to use. Granted, it wasn’t free to keep, but it made me bringing my own unnecessary. Unless you’re super attached to your peri-bottle, you can leave it at home. I would also suggest avoiding bringing a lot of post-birth care products such as perineal spray, cooling pads, hemorrhoid pads, or anything else that’s recommended as a product to be used “down there” after a vaginal birth. Similarly, for a c-section, you don’t need scar cream, silicone scar tape, or a belly binder so soon after surgery. Often for any stitches or cuts, you’ll want to keep the area clean, dry, and bandaged. Further, given how unpredictable birth can be, with even the same mom having a different experience with each birth, I’d recommend waiting until after baby comes before requesting anything related to healing. Wait to see what you need.

    • Snacks or lots of food

    Some people might disagree with this one. But I really feel strongly that you don’t need to bring a lot of snacks or food with you. I found I hardly touched the food I brought and seemed to gravitate towards the vending machine or ordering food from outside the hospital. The whole experience is new and unless the hospital food and cafeteria are absolute garbage, you’re going to want to try it at least once. I also found shortly after giving birth, that the food I craved was healthy and nutrient dense. Think fruit smoothies and macro bowls. I was asking my husband and mom to order food out for me a lot.

    • Breast Pump
    • Nursing Pillow

    My Personal Recommendations

    • Nipple cream. Unfortunately, breastfeeding or chestfeeding can be uncomfortable and painful at first. Both you and your baby are learning what works and sometimes this can result in red, chafed, nipples. I found the Earth Mama nipple cream to be especially healing during those first few days. It’s a bit on the greasier side, but it works! (You can find it here if you want to try it out).
    • Gum. For those moms who will be having a c-section, a little-known side-effect can be trapped gas in your abdomen. It usually manifests as a very sore shoulder, and in some cases, difficulty breathing when you change positions. I know this from first-hand experience. Gum is often recommended as a tool to alleviate any trapped gases as it encourages movement in your bowels. Walking and walking often is another recommended option.
    • Beer or fun drinks. I’m not saying get absolutely plastered at the hospital, I’m only suggesting bringing something fun with you to celebrate your baby’s birth. This can be a fun mocktail or a seltzer. It just elevated the whole experience and made the mood more celebratory.
    • Book on post-partum care. I found I cared the most about what to do post-partum when I was immediately post-partum. I bought Postnatal Pilates: a Recovery and Strength Guide for Life by Anya Hayes and found myself going back to it constantly in those first few days. (Linking it here if you want something helpful to reference).
    • Movies or media. Watching a hospital TV is a similar experience to watching a hotel TV. It’s new and exciting to channel surf for the first few hours but gets old very quick. You’ll be up nursing your new baby very frequently (every 2 hours or less), so you’ll want to have something engaging to watch or focus on.

    Download this Checklist:

    If you want something simple and stress-free (without overthinking this), I created a printable version of this checklist you can follow step-by-step.

    It also includes a partner checklist and extra tips from my first two births.

    Click here to get my Minimalist Hospital Bag Checklist!
  • I Didn’t Expect This During My Third Pregnancy: Anxiety

    I Didn’t Expect This During My Third Pregnancy: Anxiety

    Is Anxiety During Pregnancy Normal?

    Anxiety during pregnancy is actually very common. Many expectant mothers experience moments of worry, racing thoughts, or feeling overwhelmed — especially if they’ve had complications in previous pregnancies. The challenge can be knowing when these feelings are normal pregnancy worries and when they might be signs of prenatal anxiety.

    I’m pregnant with my third baby! Since this is my third “rodeo”, a lot of things have felt very familiar, but what I didn’t expect this time around was the anxiety that came with it.

    We’re over the moon excited to be expanding our family and I daydream daily about the full table I’ll have filled with love. However, I’ve been struggling with moments of feeling overwhelmed and just a general sense of unease that’s making it hard to lean into the bittersweet moments of what will be my last pregnancy.

    My Experience with Pregnancy Anxiety:

    For me, I’ve had intrahepatic cholestasis of pregnancy for my first two pregnancies (let me know if you’d like me to write a post about my experiences with it!). Because I’ve had it before, I know I’ll likely get it again. That makes it hard not to be hypersensitive to every little itch on my hands and feet. One small twinge can send me into a thought spiral of “this is it, I have it again” and my brain refuses to listen to reason. I.e. like it’s pretty early to be getting it, your skin is just dry, the itching went away etc.. etc.. Also, I will be having a C-Section and the idea of another surgery and recovery is something that does scare me.

    And oh man, the number of “what if…?” questions that pop into my head have been really tough. There are so many horror stories online and there truly is a balance to staying informed versus being overburdened with the worst-case scenarios.

    Some days are really good, especially when the February sun is out and the birds are chirping. Other days, I’m a tightly wound ball of nerves that could have a little “menty-b” (mental breakdown) if a sad song comes on my playlist. Some country songs honestly need to be outlawed on public radio.

    In the evenings, after a long day of working full-time and running after my two littles, I also feel like the only thing my brain can focus on is worry. It’s like it says, “hey girlie, which worry from your suuuuuper long list do you want to tackle tonight? If you’re feeling up to it, we can cycle through 2! or even 3!”

    So, I’ve been asking myself, “is this normal?” And I looked into it.

    The short answer is: yes, it is.

    The long answer is: if it’s affecting you daily, there are solutions, and you’re not alone.

    So, if you’re experiencing something similar, please breathe a sigh of relief and take a relaxing nap or a bath, because everything will be ok.

    Normal Pregnancy Worry vs Prenatal Anxiety:

    Anxiety can be a big scary word that gets tossed around easily and it is a normal part of life even outside of being pregnant. But anxiety does exist on a spectrum with fluctuations being common. Pregnancy in particular, with all its hormonal shifts, sleep problems, birth anticipation, and work/life/family changes, can all contribute to feelings of anxiety and lack of control.

    However, normal pregnancy worry is often something that is transient. Meaning that it comes and goes. Today can be better than yesterday or even your afternoon can be better than your morning. Normal worry is often tied to specific triggers, like watching a particularly traumatic news segment or hearing your neighbor talk about their birth story. Further, this worry does get worse when you’re tired or stressed and you just don’t have the mental strength to overcome it or think clearly.

    Overall, normal pregnancy worry is just a small part of your day or week, it doesn’t feel like it’s consuming you or taking over your life. If you’re struggling with leaving your home, interacting with others, or ruminating for days, then it’s possible that you might have “prenatal anxiety”.

    Prenatal anxiety is persistent worry that consumes most days of your week. Often, it can result in trouble sleeping due to worry. I know sleep can be elusive during pregnancy, but this is a sleep disturbance beyond the common aches and pains of pregnancy. It is feeling constantly on edge or keyed up. Generally, with prenatal anxiety, moms-to-be report extreme difficulty in enjoying their pregnancy.

    How to Cope with Pregnancy Anxiety:

    So, if pregnancy anxiety is normal—but still overwhelming—what can you actually do about it? You can:

    1. Name the feeling: simply acknowledging that you’re feeling anxious can help you work towards feeling better.
    2. Keep a journal or diary and write down the thoughts that are causing you worry. Sometimes putting them down on paper minimizes the impact that they have.
    3. Reduce your triggers. If a certain social media account just gets you spiraling every time, no matter how good-intentioned it is, maybe it’s time to mute them or take a social media break. Honestly, we could all do this.
    4. Create a routine that you follow when you feel anxious or create a list of things that you know make you feel good. This could be calling a friend/family member, listening to music, getting some movement in, or just walking outside and breathing fresh air. Find what works specifically for you.
    5. Give yourself permission to rest. This one is hard, especially if you have other young children that you’re responsible for. But maybe, you just request an evening to yourself if you’re able to do so. Perhaps your husband does bath time, or maybe your mother-in-law bakes cookies with them? Find an hour to yourself if you can and use that time to rest and recharge.
    6. Take something off your plate. Are you feeling extra overwhelmed because trying to cook dinner with your kids screaming and crying after school is just too much? Can you sign up for a meal service? Or try meal prepping on the weekend when you have more flexibility. Let go of perfection and maybe also lean into chicken nuggets and frozen peas for a little while. Similarly, maybe the laundry just doesn’t get folded. Your family will still be able to get dressed if their clothes are in a pile. Better yet, off-load your chores to someone else. You’re growing a baby for goodness sakes!
    7. Create a happiness list. I have photos of my kids, happy TV shows, rom-com audio books and feel-good music on my rotation that I cycle through when I want a boost of dopamine. It’s also a great way to remind yourself that good things exist outside of your racing thoughts.
    8. Lean into what you can control. I believe pregnancy is particularly stressful for me because I don’t have constant feedback on how everything is going in my belly. For my situation, what I can control is my diet, exercise, and mindset. I can avoid sugar (which I’ve read can exacerbate cholestasis), and I can say positive things to myself.

    When to Talk to a Doctor:

    If you’re finding that more often than not, you’re feeling like your anxiety is taking over and the strategies above just are not working for you, it might be time to reach out to someone who can help. It’s important to know that this is something that you should not have to struggle through, there is help available and while reaching out might be the hardest step, it does not mean there is anything wrong with you or that you are less than.

    Primary care providers (or your OB/GYN) are here to support you and can provide referrals to mental health services, therapists, and in certain cases can suggest medications or treatments that will make a huge difference.

    Please reach out if you or your family is noticing that:

    • Your anxiety is increasing and does not seem to be ebbing and flowing
    • Your sleep is consistently disrupted, broken, or just “not enough”
    • You are feeling like you’re unable to cope with daily tasks, you’re ruminating for days, and things that once brought you joy no longer do.

    Asking for help does not mean you’re weak or broken. It actually means you are strong and you care about yourself, your family, and your baby. No one should have to experience this, especially not alone, and there are solutions.

    Pregnancy Is Hard and You’re Not Alone:

    Growing a baby is tough stuff. And while a lot of it is viewed with rose coloured glasses, there are some aspects of pregnancy that are nerve-racking, scary, and confusing.

    Know that fluctuations in your mood are normal and that you’re not the only pregnant person who feels this way. But also know, that if you feel something is off and you’re really struggling or lacking support, there are people who want to help you.

    Pregnancy can be beautiful, but it can also be overwhelming and uncertain.

    If you’re feeling anxious, worried, or just not like yourself right now, please know that you’re not alone. Many moms experience this—even during pregnancies they deeply wanted and planned.

    Give yourself grace. You’re doing something incredible.

    Sources:

    • American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists
    • March of Dimes – Mental health during pregnancy
    • Postpartum Support International – Perinatal anxiety information